HAPPY NEW YEAR! Long time no post aye? Well a lot has transpired since my last blog. You ever had the wind knocked out of you, you know like when you were a little kid and you were running then all of a sudden you fall and the wind gets knocked right out of you. It takes a minute or two to regroup and gather yourself and realize you are okay right?
Well this is kind of what happened to me towards the latter part of 2020, like I got the wind KNOCKED out of me and I’m still “regrouping. I must say, up until that point, 2020 for my family and I wasn’t bad, God continued to provide during the pandemic and still continues to provide. We are healthy and have so much to be thankful for. Yet, amongst all of this, the wind got knocked clean out of me in a way that I could have never imagined and I began to feel like the majority of the word felt about 2020….My mother passed away, the gut wrenching blow that took my very breath away.
Which brings me to today’s topic , Grief. I’ve always heard people say things like “until you lose a parent you never understand this type of lost.” And now I find myself in a club I never wanted to be a part of, nor imagined being part of for years down the road. The woman I knew literally my whole life made her transition to be with the Lord. I believed God until the very end that He would heal her on this side and yet God saw fit in His infinite wisdom to heal her in eternity with Him.
Grief is real. Grief is necessary. Yeshua, even, went through grief in the loss of Lazarus. He mourned and wept, yet, in the very midst of grieving He reminds us that anyone who believes in Him will never die. The psalmist tells us that “precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of His saints.” So in the midst of our loss we should know how God feels about the ones are no longer with us.
God, Yeshua, Holy Spirit and the prayer of His children is how I am getting through this grieving process. Mommy (as her children call her) is all the way whole never to be bound by sickness and disease ever again. I miss her more than words can express (as so my other siblings and other loved ones)but I remain hopeful in that her transition was precious to the Lord. God himself felt this pain of losing His only son. He knows what you and I experience when we suffer the loss of a loved one.
If you are reading this and you are going through a traumatic loss, I encourage you to not be afraid to ask Abba (Father God) those tough questions. He can handle them. I also encourage you to take your time and allow yourself to be angry, cry, scream, not want to be bothered, to be shocked, all the emotions involved —you are free to go through. Don’t try to ignore them or suppress them. You may find yourself crying at inconvenient moments and it’s okay. You are not crazy, you are just grieving. It’s said that over time it becomes more bearable, so just take each moment as it comes. God will still be there because His word says that He is close to those of a broken heart. Allow yourself to mourn for you shall be comforted.
While I grieve, I still have hope that the legacy she left in my siblings and I will lead a dying world to a risen savior. My mom was telling as many people as she could about Yeshua, even during her final days and then when she could not talk, her very presence testified of Yeshua. Mom never let the pain nor the frailty of her physical body stop her from preaching the gospel. It’s as if she was like, I know I’m headed to heaven and I’m taking as many people with me as I can :).
Every time I get to share Yeshua with someone I know my mom is in heaven rooting me on, so I will continue to hope through this grieving process. While the wind may have been knocked out of me, Holy Spirit is pouring back in and helping me live. I know my mom loved me and supported my every endeavor so I know in time I will be okay and my prayer is that you know that your loved one that has transitioned into Glory would want wants you to live. Their journey may have come to an end on earth, but you need to pick up the mantle and continue the journey.
Lord, I pray that you heal every heart that is grieving the loss of their loved one. Whether it’s recent or years ago, I pray that you would comfort us all and be with us always. In Yeshua’s name, Amen.
“This post is dedicated to my beautiful mom, you will forever be in my heart”